A month since my last blog. Not a lot has changed. I did recently travel to Mandurah with my mum, cousin and auntie for a little 3 day get away. I think I’ve mentioned before that my mum and I aren’t very buddy-buddy, so it was nice to spend a bit of time with her. And the trip worked well because that same week my boyfriend was down in Bunbury to do a bit of work experience at GWN. So, after my stay at Mandurah I took the bus to Bunbury. A lovely 2 hour trip in which I watched a boy in the seat next to me write a letter to the girl he was sitting with saying ‘it’s been really nice meeting you and spending this ride with you, you’re a gorgeous girl’ and then saw a giddy smile spread across the girls lips when she read it. And there I was wondering whether to be happy or sad for the girl, thinking to myself, ‘he’s either a really sweet boy, or he’s just done this so many times that he’s this smooth and she’s falling it’. But moving on from stranger’s romantic lives.
It was a nice little holiday all up. Drinking with my family, wandering around Bunbury, laying on the beach and having a week without work.
It was an exciting and proud moment to watch my boyfriend appear on television and report a story he’d spent time organising. When I got back my mum said, “Bunbury’s still quite close and it’s nice there. Would you be happy to move there if he got a job?” Now I’ve never talked with my mum about moving away with my boyfriend, but it was nice to know I wasn’t the only one thinking about that option. Still, it’s not really the discussion I want to have until/unless we have to. And yeah that might have something to do with that bit of uncertainty about where we stand in that such a conversation could result in me being single (again), which something I can’t quite get out of the back of my mind.
But of course you think about it, because if he has to move away, that’s going to affect our relationship. And if it was somewhere not as close as Bunbury, would I want to move if I was invited to? What if it was over east? Or for other couples considering a move overseas? How far would you go to stay with someone you’re dating? And I don’t mean a relationship we’re you’re both committed and you’ve had the talk about how you plan to stay together forever. That’s different – that’s a no brainer. I’m talking about the other relationships where you’re not entirely sure where it’s headed, but neither of you would choose to end it if it wasn’t for outside factors. Because it’s a big sacrifice to move for someone else. I’m still scared of moving to secure a job for myself, and in that scenario there’s a potential career for me to gain.
Moving out is a big step for anyone, your first move being to another town and leaving people behind is bigger. Doing it to be with someone adds another dimension. I’d say I’m a pretty big believer in love (and maybe that makes me a little naive, but it’s better than being cynical) and when I’m with someone there isn’t much I love more than making them happy. And I’d like to say I would do a lot to be with someone I loved, too. But there’s always going to be voices in the back of your mind, questioning your choices. And that goes for any big decision. So, in this scenario of moving in together and moving away together I believe there’s two main questions; Would he even want me to move with him? And; What happens if we do move and things don’t work out?
Like I said though, this isn’t a discussion I want or need to be having right now (thinking about it is something else entirely, because that I can do in the privacy of my own mind and sometimes I can’t help it). My dad is a firm believer in not worrying about things you have no control over. And since we have no idea what’s waiting for us in the future, none of this even matters right now. But there is one thing I’m sure of - I care about my boyfriend in the way that there’s nothing I want more than to see him succeed. I want that even if it means he has to move and I don’t get to see him everyday anymore. If it lead to an opportunity for him to achieve the things he should, then that’s so completely worth it.
