bestfriend day.

I've got this thing with the differences between friendships and relationships. People always say friends are the ones who are going to be there even after your relationship breaks down and they're generally right. And yet we tend to put so much more emphasis on a relationship. I couldn't tell you the date I became friends with my current bestfriends, but I know it was October 31, 2009 when I became the girlfriend of Drew. And I certaintly don't celebrate an anniversary each year with my bestfriend, the way I do with my boyfriend. I don't tell her I love her everytime I see her, the way I do with my boyfriend.

People ask us how long we've been with our partners and when that number gets above a few years (at my age, strictly speaking) they tend to say 'that's quite a long time then' and proceede to ask if the two of you have plans for the future together. No one ever asks me how long I've been friends with my two bestfriends and if they did I doubt they'd be impressed by my reply of 7 years and 10 years.

When people's boyfriend or girlfriend move away they often either break up, or go with them. If my bestfriend moved away I wouldn't do either. I wouln't stop being her bestfriend and I wouldn't go with her ... (unless that was the plan all along). We would just stay bestfriends from across a country or an ocean. And it wouldn't be hard and I wouldn't replace her. Sure I might find new bestfriends, but I wouldn't replace her. Ahh and here inlies the difference. So obvious that I didn't actually think about it until I'd just written that sentence. You're allowed more than one bestfriend. You're not (generally) allowed more than one boyfriend or husband. It's easier to commit wholeheartedly and forever to something if you know you're not limited to it. But that's a whole other issue; manogamy.

My point is there's so much emphasis on relationships. People are so impressed to hear couples who've been married 40 years. What about people who've been friends 40 years? People who have stuck by you through all the other boyfriends or girlfriends. People who have also seen you at your worst (probably worse than your partner has seen you too) and who know all your innermost thoughts.

I think there should be a world wide 'bestfriend day', similar to valentines day. To spend with bestfriends and bestfriends only (becase bestfriends are in a league of their own and I'm sure even if your one of those super popular people, deep down you've probably only got no more that three real bestfriends so I'm sure one day would be enough to fit them all in). Yeah, I think that'd be nice.