you’re it.

The delicate art of playing chasey (past the age of six) when you first meet someone you are potentially interested in can often make or break the relationship. Come on too strong? You’ll scare them off. Play too hard to get? They’ll think you’re not interested and move on. Generally I don’t believe in playing games when it comes to relationships. If he’s not going to come out and say he’s into me (which is fair enough, that’s a little bit full on if you’ve only just met and leads to potential ego bruising if it’s not reciprocated), then I’d at least like the hints to be obvious enough that I know where it’s leading. None of this childish hide-and-seek stuff where they act like they’re interested then take cover if you do the same. Grow up kids. A big part of ‘the chase’ is who initiates it. Who makes the first move? Society generally accepts this is the role of the male. Girls like to be wanted, sought after. Guys like to ‘hunt and gather’ (sorry for the primitive wording but that’s probably where it stems from) and I imagine it’s a bit of an ego boost if they catch the girl they’re chasing. However, I definitely believe if there was a contest along the lines of ‘who can pick up the most in a night’, females would win. Though maybe that’s because guys wouldn’t believe their luck that they didn’t have to put in any effort to get a girl. And, while calling it a turn on, when asked if the girl making the first move seems desperate, Friends’ own Joey Tribbiani (great source, right?) tells us, “that’s the turn on”. So, maybe not the best idea if you’re looking for a relationship longer than one night? But, that’s just one (fictional) man’s opinion. So, I wonder, have we come far enough not to care who makes the first move or do we still expect it to be the guy? And if it is the girl, is it a permanent turn on, or just a turn on because she seems desperate?